My critique on How to Break Your Addiction to a Person by Howard M. Halpern

I think one of the first things I disagreed with in his book is that he says that "anxiety is always better than depression". And I know another problem with this statement is that he's implying that anxiety and depression are always separate, but as I have learned from others, that is not always the case. I would like to say, as someone who used to struggle with severe anxiety and panic attacks, anxiety is NOT always better than depression, depending on how severe the anxiety is and how severe the depression is. If your anxiety is as severe as mine was where you can't function, can't eat, can't sleep, and even throw up at times, then I would say that depression might be a relief because it usually at least calms you down, even though it might be painful. Because I have had both severe depression and severe anxiety in two different times in my life, and I have to say, if you have both at the same time, both are equally unbearable. But if I had to choose between each of them, I would prefer depression because the panic attacks would get so severe that they were PHYSICALLY so painful in my body in staying up all night and puking and aching, that I would beg to go to the hospital that would end up with too many big bills to pay just for me to get through each day. And this was even with anxiety medication and therapy. Anyway, I think Halpern should understand that anxiety is not always the best thing for someone depending on how severe it is. But in the context of this book where he's trying to make you face your anxiety by breaking up with someone, I can see his point in why anxiety would be better than depression. I think what he should have mentioned is that in severe cases, some people need to just go to a psych ward or a treatment center to deal with their anxiety instead of just relying on outpatient treatment because not all types of anxieties are doable to face just with friends and a therapist.

Another thing I disagree with him on is that he says to challenge beliefs such as "nobody really cares" and "everybody is only out for himself". Now I can see why he wants his patients to challenge these beliefs because most likely not EVERY SINGLE PERSON in your life doesn't care or is narcissistic/selfish or whatever. But what I would like to point out to Halpern is that in some instances, these beliefs REALLY CAN be true. For example, when I was in the treatment center I went to (Hanbleceya) I met someone who was the epitome of what therapists would think is a "lost cause." He was a very troubled young man who had a bad record with breaking the law and had been diagnosed with autism. As I got to know him, I could see that in HIS life, NOBODY really cared about him. Literally almost all the other patients there made fun of him behind his back and all the therapists/psychiatrists working there were pretty self-centered and just looking for their next paycheck. He even told me that his family won't talk to him anymore, and he's been kicked out of the treatment center several times, so it seemed that everybody that knew him couldn't even trust him or understand him. In addition, I do think that not necessarily EVERYONE is only out for himself, as Halpern says. But he fails to mention that in our society these days with our culture in the United States, everybody is pretty much taught to be self-centered ALL THE TIME. I saw blatant examples of this on a Dr. Phil show called "Generation Me" about tons of young kids that are so lazy, selfish, and basically mooch off other people. These kids were EXTREMELY self-centered, and not only that, but I've seen people like that in other generations as well. I know that I'm not a self-centered person, but I also know that finding people like me is very RARE these days. So I just think he should have mentioned that.
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Around two months ago I posted in this community a link to research on musical emotion, now I would like to thank everyone who participated and tell you about some results.
My primary aim was to research the musical features that are correlated with emotions, but this is too technical to discuss here, so I'll just discuss the "psychological" side.
It turns out, that men and women prefer different music based on its emotional content. The difference was quite small, but men prefer more solemn and calm music, while women preferred nostalgic and sad music.

Moreover, listeners seem to define an emotion differently depending on genre.
Listeners of classical music feel "amazement, wonder" mostly when they hear quick, joyful music, while listeners of electronic music feel amazed when they hear dark, awe and fear inspiring music.
For listeners of classical music nostalgia is a sorrowful and tragic feeling, and for listeners of rock term "nostalgic" applies more to quite, slow and calm pieces.

Here is a graph, which shows how music in different genres induces in its listeners different emotions.
Pop music induces mostly tenderness, nostalgia and calmness. Electronic music induces tension, joyful activation.
Classical music induces mostly calmness, solemnity or joyful activation.


Thanks to everyone who participated and if you still want to take part in research, its still going on and probably in the end I will be able to build a better computer algorithm for music classification.
A link to survey:
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music emotional perception

Dear fellow students,

You all know how it is when it comes to data collection... So!
I'm doing research on musical emotion and I can offer you an online psychological quiz that will tell you what you like about music and will help me to find out how similar we people are.

Here is how it goes:
1. Select the genre that you like.
2. Listen to fragments of songs (whole pieces also available) and tell me how you felt (you just need to select from a list).
3. Get feedback on how your musical taste is different from that of other people and which emotional content you prefer in music.
4. Help me researchers to collect research data!

You might spend as much time as you like on it, from 1 minute to half an hour. In any case, thank you a lot!
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Psychology Documentaries

Hello all.

I am really interested in documentaries, and I have been searching for documentaries based on Psychology in particular.

So I woud like your help:

What Psychology documentaries are available to watch on the web?
What is/are the best Psychology Documentaries you have seen?

Thanks for your reply in advance :D

New Here

Hi. I'm new here.

I have one semester left at community college where I'd earn an A.A.S. in Psychology. The classes I intend to take next semester are Human Growth and Development, Psychology of Adolescence, Sociology, and English 102 (which, I need, apparently.).

I'm then going to go on to try to earn a B.A. in Psychology. I'm then going to try to work for a few years, although...what exactly can one do with this sort of degree?

Then, it's off to either graduate school and/or a PhD program in Cognitive Neuroscience. I want to evaluate and study brains. I know that's rather broad...but it's the truth. I want to look at CAT, PET, and MRI scans. I want to see what areas of the brain light up, and connect this to behavior and cognitive processes.

I'm going to be in school forever...
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Possible careers

Does anyone know what possible careers/jobs one can pursue with a masters in personality psychology? Research and the academe are the only options that come to mind ATM but I'd like to know if there are other possibilities I haven't considered.

Thanks in advance!
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Hi fellow psychology students!

My name is Paola and I recently found this community. Tomorrow, August 13, starts the induction course of my university years. I'll study in a four-year school and I'll graduate with a bachelor degree in general psychology. 

I'm so excited about this, but I'm also nervous because I'm not really familiarized just yet: I studied in a technical high school and my specialty was Mechatronics. It was supposed that I should have studied an engineering career, but I found out there was this psychology school and since I have always been interested in human mind, I decided for psychology. I learned more about the career and about the school, then I took the entrance examination and I got accepted.

The first semester starts on August 20, these will be my classes:
  • Human biological systems
  • Theory of human communication
  • Psychology's descriptive statistics
  • National social problems
  • Quantitative methodology workshop
  • Intellectual growth workshop
  • Philosophical roots of psychology
I'd like to meet more psychology students to make friends with, or to hear your advice about how to deal with what is coming up from now on. I have also made a blog to help other students, and to record my progress into becoming a psychologist. If there's anyone interested into reading it or giving me some advice for that too, this is the link.

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So ive just graduated with my 2.1 BSc (hons) degree in applied psychology. Ive been trying for like a year and a half to get some voluntary work experience in mental health, preferably working with children but tbh I have been looking for ANYTHING mental health related.
I really want to work in the mental health field but I feel like im fighting and losing battle atm. I just dont know what my next step should be, i guess I could use some advice?

Ive asked my lecturers at the university for some advice but they were as much use as a chocolate fireguard.... everyone who was in my class basically has this problem too. I just don't know what to do next? Any ideas where I could get some experience/type of places I should email/write to? I literally cant think of anymore places than I have already contacted...

Help would be very appriciated :)